Hello, I am Stef!
Let’s just say that before hitting rock bottom, I was happy, playing life safe, and I was doing fine. Or so I thought. It wasn’t until after my divorce that my life changed, for the better; it was a wake-up call I didn’t know I needed.
I was always good at talking about doing things, but I never took any action towards doing them. And instead of looking out for myself, I had the habits of putting other people’s needs ahead of my own, which I only later realized was because I wanted to get that kind of love in return.
My divorce has been my wake-up call. After a, still on-going, process of self-discovery, for the first time I felt alive! I have more meaningful relationships, a shorter bucket list, and a much more fulfilled life.
What is the key for this new passion for life?
I focus on the most important relationship there is: the relationship with myself.
How do I go about doing this? I choose how to spend my time, I go for my dreams instead of just thinking about them, I let go of what is not serving me, and I take risks.
The challenges that hit me were my greatest blessings!
When I was around 10 years old, my parents divorced. It was not an easy period but I remember this time in my life as the time I created an indestructible bond with my sisters. I was doing my best to make them laugh; they were doing their best to protect me. Since then, they are my greatest strength.
Living in different countries I have had to adapt to different temperatures, cultures, languages but also find jobs and make new friends. Basically, I have had to build a new life each time I transitioned to a new place. Each move taught me that I should not give up when things get tough. Adapting to a new culture takes time and forces you to get out of your comfort zone. But it also opens your mind, develops your creative side and creates new interests.
My calling to the field of life coaching came in 2012 after my divorce. During this transition, I discovered that I had been stepping over the most important relationship of all...the one I had with herself. It instilled in me a strong desire to conduct in-depth research on self-love, vulnerability, and living an authentic life. Sharing my journey has been a source of inspiration and strength since for others. What started as a healing journey became my love affair with supporting others on their own path.